There are these times where I know that there is a major difference between what someone should hear and what someone needs to hear. What they should hear is advice about to get their lives back on track such as prioritizing and compartmentalizing. What they need to hear is that life gets better. That’s all. They don’t need advice right then and there. In fact, not only would the advice fall on deaf ears, but giving advice prematurely could make them guarded against any similar idea in the future. Moral of the story is: remember to take into consideration other factors such as: the amount of time passed, the psychological inclinations of the person, and the reaction of the other person(s) involved, before deciding whether it is the time to give advice or to simply provide moral support.
Whenever we are kept from something, all we ever think about is what good or fun things we are kept from. We never think about that bad or scary things that we are protected from. Think about it. Our parents sometimes refuse us permission to go somewhere fun with our friends. We think about what gossip we’re missing or who we don’t get to see, but that’s not the whole story. We’re also kept from being exposed to compromising situations or issues. We often only look to see what great things we miss, but we never think about how by missing some things, we are being protected.
Date a girl who reads. Date that someone who has a collection of books rather than a collection of designer clothes. She wants to go on an unlimited adventure by reading another creative fictitious novel or another romantic tear-jerker from Nicholas Sparks.
Find a girl who reads, that someone who spends her vacant hours at school inside the library. She is that person who owns a local library card ever since she was ten.
You can often find her inside the bookstore, looking at the new titles shelf. She quietly cries whenever she finds the perfect book or the book she was looking for ever since.
She is that person who wants to wait inside the coffee shop and just read. She is lost on the make-believe world the author has written for her. Sit down next to her, then she might give you this weird look because she never wants to be interrupted. Ask her about the book, whether if she liked it or not.
Buy her a cup of coffee.
She is that someone who enjoys a long bus ride but doesn’t mind the jittery ride and just continues to read, unmindful of all the guys that want to talk to her. Don’t disturb her now, you might be ignored by her forever.
Get her books for her birthday, for New Year’s or even Valentine’s as well. She will never be able to complain. Don’t forget about the books she listed on her wish list for Christmas. Her life resembles on her favorite book. It’s probably the only thing that she understands.
Disappoint her, because a girl who reads knows that the ointment to disappointment are books. You don’t need to always be there for her. Giving her a book will remind her of your presence. Don’t be something that you are not, to her. She knows well that people are like characters. It takes them time to grow. If you find a girl who reads, keep her away from society, for she is a prized catch.
If you find her depressed for days together, ask her about the title of the book that she read. Understand what the story meant to her and hold her. She needs it very badly. She may not cry, but her hug will speak a thousand words, and her smile will make your day.
Propose to her – with a bookmark. She will understand.
Date a girl who reads because you deserve it. She can make your life colorful and yet make you feel grounded. Don’t tempt her with vices of the material world, they mean nothing to her. Show her the way to the world of books and she will show you the way to her heart.
Maybe it’s just me, but it’s really hard for me to buy presents. It’s not the process of buying gifts that gets me, but it’s the process of figuring out what to get. I don’t like giving someone something generic or something useless. I want to give the person something that I know they want and I know they’ll use. I have to take into consideration what they like, what they have, what they need, and what they want. Thinking about the criteria alone is enough to give me a headache. But I always love that moment when I think of the perfect present. The one that fulfills the criteria and then some. The one that I know they’ll love and can’t wait to use. Do I hit the mark every time? Nope. But hopefully, I’ll hit it perfectly at least once for every one of my greatest friends.